When Lucy Wheeler was born on 16 January 1765, in Mason, Hillsborough, New Hampshire, United States, her father, Josiah Wheeler, was 22 and her mother, Lucy Heald, was 22. She married William Graves on 24 December 1779, in Acton, Middlesex, Massachusetts, United States. They were the parents of at least 1 son and 11 daughters. She lived in Gardner, Worcester, Massachusetts, United States in 1771. She died on 25 March 1841, in East Washington, Washington, Sullivan, New Hampshire, United States, at the age of 76, and was buried in Washington, Sullivan, New Hampshire, United States.